I Can't Moderate But I Think I Can

[musclesprout]

Help!!!!

My head tells me I can learn to drink normally. I then get drunk while ordering heaps of books off amazon on how to do it. Help!!! I cannot stand myself or my head.

I have tried many many times over many years to drink normally but I can't. I am a binge drinker. I have one I want a 100!

Being a christian I keep thinking if the bible says I can do all things thru christ then I should be able to stop right???

So stuck, spent, fed up, miserable and tragic
HELP:eek:

[philo237]

Hello Musclesprout, I too have trouble moderating. I used to really like getting drunk, but not so much anymore. I have, however, always hated being drunk. I also hate waking hangovers, so I drink until I drop. What a mess. You are not alone. Don't drink today, see how you feel.

[ariel]

Hi Sprout,

Most people who find this board have a serious problem with alcohol.
There are a number of binge drinkers that have successfully quit.

Start a journal in the Diaries and Journals section.
Post your goals, your dreams, your challenges, and your reasons for wanting to get your life back.

Read a lot in the journals section, and you may find a lot of similarities between your own struggles and those of others.
You will learn how they overcame those struggles, and how they continued to fight and grow.

Some people who do have faith have found that to be an enormous help.
Pray. Pray for guidance and strength. Ask for what you want.
Remember you have to take a step too.
You can not just pray and then reach for your next cocktail.
You have to act. You may find that once you start acting that it opens up a whole new world, and good things can happen.
You have to walk through the door and leave the alcohol behind.
You have spent enough time to learn that it is hurtful to you as well.
You have also learned repeatedly that you can Not moderate.
It's time to quit.

Many people who are not of Christian faith or are atheists have succesfully quit as well.
They too walked away from a path that only leads to destruction and death.

I will look for your journal.
Pick a name for your thread that is meaningful for you. One that brings you hope and strength, a positive outlook on your future.

You will find that you can get a lot of good feedback there, and you can also look back and learn from your own words.
You've seen a pattern in yourself. Write about it.
Write about making a new pattern for yourself.

You can kick the booze and enjoy the rest of your life with good health in your stead.

wishing you all the best
ariel

[BertieWooster]

Help!!!!

My head tells me I can learn to drink normally. I then get drunk while ordering heaps of books off amazon on how to do it. Help!!! I cannot stand myself or my head.

I have tried many many times over many years to drink normally but I can't. I am a binge drinker. I have one I want a 100!

Being a christian I keep thinking if the bible says I can do all things thru christ then I should be able to stop right???

So stuck, spent, fed up, miserable and tragic
HELP:eek:

Being spiritual or praying has helped a lot of people, but on the other hand, you have be practical. Josh Hamilton says Christianity helped him but he still has someone carry his pocket money when his team travels - in my opinion, that's not a sign of weakness, but of strength

http://sports.espn.go.com/mlb/news/story?id=2926447

So, I guess, if moderation isn't working... its time to make a decision.

BTW, have you tried going 30 days drink free ?

[musclesprout]

Thanks so much. I feel so lucky to have people understand. I am off to start a diary .......

I don't feel I deserve such nice, kind advice
Thanks

[greengirl32]

Forgiveness is a wonderful thing, is it not?

[Sandrea of the light]

Hey Musclesprout,
Starting a diary helps so much. If I'm not here, I'm either extremely busy or drinking again. But I can come back and look through my diary, and actually read what I was going through and the triggers that I set myself up for, and try to work through the issues so I don't make the same mistakes. Right now I'm taking advantage of this opportunity in my life, and any resourse available to make sure I have the tools to keep me on the right path. At 50 I know the score, nothing changes except going back to hell, the second I pick up the first drink.
I'm back in counciling, AA, alanon, and anything else I can grasp. My volumes of self-help books are getting dusty in my library. It takes work to stay sober, but I want and need it to survive. Sandrea

[indigoiis]

Check out www.rational.org

Welcome to WQD!
Indy

[jonesing]

its all or nothing

that first drink gets you drunk