what happened to WQD

[theCause]

hi guys,

i was a member of wqd a long while ago.. and i've decided, rather, needed to come back.

my old account is gone and it seems like this place is way less active than it used to be. any folks from as far back as three or more years ago? can anyone tell me what happened to the old forum?

[theCause]

honestly, i'm not 100% on what my name was, though i'm fairly certain it was "dw" or some variant. i remember there was a really active guy named Tom on here that i became pretty good friends with.. anyone going by tom still around?

i do remember Rich.. if it's the same rich then he's at 1461 days today :)

[theCause]

nope.. i'm not dagwood. i was dwdavey .. the site that's counting is http://www.dwdavey.com. it's been "down" forever, but i told rich a long time ago that i would never let his counter stop.

honestly, when i logged in it was just for me, i had no idea that it was rich's four years. i was coming back in to the forum and that's just a bizarre coincidence. i'm going to give my life back to sobriety.

when i had joined this site four years ago, i had just separated from my wife.. we were drinking buddy's. we were going through our divorce which wasn't tied to either of our drinking... we were just wrong for each other. but as the divorce progressed my drinking got worse. i decided it would be in my best interest to face the whole process sober.. so i quit. the quit lasted 7 months and i decided at one point to go back to drinking.

well here i am, 3'ish years later, still drinking up until about three days ago. bottom line: i drink too much. i'm that functional drunk that can go more than a few days without drinking, that can wait until the evening before finishing off half, a whole, or a bottle and a half of wine. that can be responsible enough at a bar to call it quits, but then finish himself off as soon as he gets home. i have an "off switch" that's very hard to find. i'm making a decision to quit rather than trying to find that perfect formula for moderation. it doesn't exist. and while i might not be the guy that hid bottles in the house, or polishes off a gallon of vodka -- i'm a drunk, and it sucks, and it's always going to get in the way.

even as i'm typing this my body is screaming to find moderation.. but i still remember the good things that came with those seven months of sobriety. i'm reminded of the bad things that come with drinking more; "the stories" that have come from my black out nights. most recently, i'm remembering the girl i brought home with me from a night at at a bar who i had the fledgling stages of a crush on. my drunk mind decided it would be better to make a move, rather than just get to know her, thus ending any chances of anything meaningful starting. now i have an drunken and somewhat embarrassing first impression rather than a poignant one. my drunk mind makes bad choices, and i don't want to wait until i'm 50 (i'm 32) to say that enough is enough. i've been unable to find the off switch since i was 15, pretty sure i'm searching for the fountain of youth or the holy grail over here.

so yeah.. i'm not here for rich, though that that guy is a bad ass. seriously, how impressed am i right now that he's still active and still sober after all this time? it's nice to be back.. time to start this sober and peaceful life again.

oh. good morning! :)

[Reed]

Hey there :
Welcome back.
I started here about a year and a half ago, so I don't think that our paths
ever crossed. This place has been a huge help to me and I am glad that
you have returned to WQD. Have a great day and good luck with the quit.

ps. I agree that Rich is a badd ass.

[rw]

okay I lost my last post, not a good day here for me.....:D
So, yes I remember you DWdavey , we crossed paths a few times in wqd1, or was it 2. I am pretty sure it was 1.
Welcome back

RW
(formally named rickswife)

[John]

Rich is now a woosie.;)

Not too many people post on the 'front page' forums anymore. It's changed even since I joined, which was only last fall. But you'll still find the same quality of people that you describe. It just takes a bit more work.

[Finally]

I can see it now...

theCause

theCure

theContinum

the sequel !!! woot woot

only new and improved and a bad ass himself !!!

Howdy? Don't know if I know ya but Welcome Back. :) New site is huge. Some of us are still around. I hide in my diary but you're welcome any time. I hit 3 years a week or so ago. It's a ruff ride but man, so worth it. Focus on those feelings you felt during that 7 months. The amazing highs' of each moment. They're intense. You know that. Be armed. Swords up. H.A.L.T. Hungry Angry Lonely Tired. Watch the triggers. Be prepared. And celebrate each sober day hour minute. Tell yourself you can do it and you CAN. It's not going to be easy but be prepared. Plan activities. Walk. Read. Never ever ever be without a bottle of water or something like that. If you can keep some candy handy. Hallowe'en deals are around the corner. I prefer to promote eat healthy because it really IS the way, but because I don't always practice it I say save up your booze money for the next couple weeks and then go buy candy's when it's half price or less. Get up early. Beat the rush. Enjoy the day. Go discover something you haven't seen in a while. Be safe. I don't want to get rambly here. I just stopped by to say Hi. But you deserve this....we ALL deserve this and we ALL can have this. Choose you.

ps - Rich does not have a bad ass. oh :o I mean Rich is a Woosie :D:p

[theCause]

thanks guys..

yeah, it's a little weird now that everything is in the diaries. i remember when i was first here no one was really posting in their own threads, it was all out in the forums; that's where all the activity was. well i just finished my first diary entry a bit ago.. so .. umm.. yeah. :)

[indigoiis]

Hey DW. Welcome back!
Git yer butt back up on dat dere horsey.
:cool:

[Rich]

Rich is now a woosie.;)

Not too many people post on the 'front page' forums anymore. It's changed even since I joined, which was only last fall. But you'll still find the same quality of people that you describe. It just takes a bit more work.
The front page forums smell like sweat socks and Chat has a faint smell of baby poo. That is why people do not go in there.


and I am not a woosie

[theCause]

well that makes sense then.. baby poo is no bueno.

[Hoots]

Rich is a woosie.

[Roxanne...]

Of course he is.

Welcome Back!!!

[Jootsie-fruit]

Rich is a woosie.

it is written and so it shall be....

[jonesing]

i have been making the same point TC