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jeffo
07-11-2008, 09:54 PM
Hi Sober, Clean, Relapsed or just plain deciding what to do it has been a long time since I have posted a new thread, I thought when I began this process fuck I'll hit a few meetings, post a couple blogs and whazzamm done I am on the high road to sobriety right? Completly recovered right? Never want another sip of booze, take a hit from a joint or take any type of mind numbing substance again.....WRONG, WRONG, WRONG

I AM AN ALOCHOLIC THE REASON WHY I AM SOBER IS BECAUSE I LOVE ALOCHOL! I love the taste, the smell, the different types one night it might be Jack&Coke, the next Jaeger but my ultimate favorite was a big ole bottle of VODKA! Beer was for socializing and kind of a deal where I would have a couple after work or put one in the counsel of my car to drink while I was driving. But if I went and got a big ole bottle of Smirnoff it was game on! I was on a mission to destroy myself and anyone in my way. Most nights I would start out with a full bottle and by 4a.m. the fucker was damn near gone. Some how though I would wake up at 6 a.m. wipe the stink from my haggard ass, brush my teeth and pray that no one smelled me that morning. They say vodka is orderless, I say bullshit not when it's seeping out of your pours it's not orderless. I would feel like shit, have mud butt, avoid everyone all day I hated the feeling but I would be doing the same shit the next night. It was a love hate relationship I loved the taste but man I hated myself the next day. I was sick but was to loaded most the time to realize it. There was only doctor, me if I wanted help the only way to get it was to make the decision to stop and not just for a week or two but forever!

What I am learning the more and more I get into this is, I was not only sick with my love affair with alochol, there are other areas that needed alot of attention. When I got drunk I would ignore those areas like all of me i.e. money, career, driving drunk, blowing up on people who loved and cared for me the most but mostly what my I was trying to do was cover up, PAIN pain that I thought hurt so bad I had to get as drunk as possible in order to not deal with it. I felt I had no other way, the drunker I got the less I felt. I loved being able to not feel! It was bliss, there were no worries no anxiety no nothing just Uncle Alochol and I. In the morning there came the regrets but I also got to use alochol as an excuse " ah I was all fucked up I didn't mean to say that" or " you know what there is now way I can get anything done I am too hung over" Perfect solution to a fucked problem! Who and what was I running from? ME, ME is the answer to be honest we all need to answer to ourselves before we are worth a shit to anyone else call it taking your own inventory if you will. I call it having COURAGE, BALLS, STRENGTH!

HI IM ME I LOVE ALOCHOL what can I say....

bigsister987
07-11-2008, 11:24 PM
You don't love alchol, you have an addiction. OK maybe that feels like love to you. Like a battered wife who continues to go back to the man who one day may kill her because she believes she loves him. She can't imagine her life without him.

When you drink it blots out the bad feelings (that were caused by alcohol in the first place by the way) and makes you feel better. You can only start to feel better without it if you stop drinking, but then you have to start dealing with all the other crap that starts piling in.

DiggerDave
07-12-2008, 03:34 AM
You don't love alchol, you have an addiction. OK maybe that feels like love to you. Like a battered wife who continues to go back to the man who one day may kill her because she believes she loves him. She can't imagine her life without him.

Well put, Big Sis. Jeffo, I also loved to drink, particularly all the different types of real ales available over here (my spirit of choice was brandy). But in the end they're just flavourings on one bloody chemical; one liquid drink out of dozens, one buzz out of hundreds, one way of spending time out of thousands of ways. I figure you know all this anyway, and to be honest all I really want to say is hang in there.

mnstar
07-12-2008, 03:55 AM
I didn't love alcohol, I loved what alcohol did for me. Turned out it was a lie, though.

Alcohol never did one good thing for me that sobriety can't do better. And that's the truth.

Rich
07-12-2008, 03:57 AM
How can you love alcohol. You can't trust it. Maybe a better word is lust for it

T-Bone
07-12-2008, 04:40 AM
Whatever you want to call it, the important thing is that you are back and quitting again. If you can't do it on your own, get help right away. Addiction is a bitch, and sometimes we need some help to kick its butt. I know you can do it, never give up.

artiste
07-12-2008, 11:34 AM
hey jeffo,

hope you're feeling ok today.

you can beat this if ya want. not easy, but worth it.

weed out the alcohol, love it, lust it, addicted to it, whatever you think, but take it out of the equation.

something else, maybe alot of things, will step right in there and take its place, for the better. stick around, there's alot of good advice and good people.

be productive! a.

Jootsie-fruit
07-12-2008, 05:12 PM
Jeffo...well...i hope you stay on the site and post and grow and heal...

do YOU reallly love it??? do u like how you feel in the morning, or after a few days of being wasted on your ass?? do u like not remembering the night before??? do u like puking??? do u like your life being a mess??? I dont think you do...you dont really love alcohol...you hate it...your addiction craves it....stop the cycle....one thing i have learned...is if you dont feed it, it will start to die......if you feed it, it will crave more...

come on in, sit a spell and have a good dose of sobriety...................

Jenna_part2
07-13-2008, 12:43 PM
Love, schmove. I HATE ALCOHOL!!! That miserable goddamn motherf***er has done nothing but piss me off for years. Don't waste your affection on something that will never love you back.

Jackalope
07-13-2008, 01:44 PM
Hey Jeffo, Are you still with us, I hope? How's Day Two going?

Gardengirl
07-16-2008, 04:22 PM
[QUOTE=DiggerDave;538916} But in the end they're just flavourings on one bloody chemical; one liquid drink out of dozens, one buzz out of hundreds, one way of spending time out of thousands of ways.[/QUOTE]

What you say is truth. :)

bonita
07-23-2008, 01:10 PM
i love it too!
but i hate it just as much

alcohol reminds me of my abusive ex
i loved him
but i hated what he did to me

at least i thought i loved him...
once i got over it though...
i realized it wasn't love at all.

and thats what i need to realize with alcohol.

for me though, its easier to get rid of an ex, than the bottle.

how old are you??